Should I or should I not?

I'm going to have sex tomorrow with this guy (first time together). I'm into && have done kinky things and he has never done anything. I had to ask him what is the most kinkiest thing he has done before tomorrow because I wanted him to tie me up and punish me for being a bad girl and spank me and pull my hair and choke me BUT I'm afraid that it'll be too much for him 😭 Advice please