Irritated momma

So basically I just have to vent...for starters my baby is 5 days old today. Well my mother in law was at the hospital all 3 days and when I had my family over for example she would always take the baby away from who was holding them.. And what pisses me off that ever since we been home she has came over everyday and doesn't ever ask me just messages my husband snd asks him ..like I'm the one recovering and exhausted not him ..I just want some cuddle and nap time with my baby without having company sometimes because in the hospital you get no rest with all the nurses coming in your room..but someone telling me how to do things.. and when she does she tells me "oh can I show you how I do it because that's not how I do it " or "oh no I wouldn't use that" ..or "I don't think you should take him to that doctor" Ok its my baby and I'll do what I want , how I want.. And inviting herself to his first doctor appt.ughh.. but on the other hand if my mom wants to come over she always asks me and makes sure I check with my husband also .. But yeah sorry to ramble and talk in circles..but I'm just irritated. 😠 .. If I didn't love my husband so much I would seriously tell her off...like stop being so effin OVERBEARING!..and fyi ..shes always been this way..just makes it worse when it involves my baby...but I could go on and on....does anyone think I'm being ridiculous??