Rant on Grandparents. (long post)

Here's a little backstory, got pregnant by boyfriend my mom was pissed throughout pregnancy his mom was over the top annoying. I never said anything to either of them about their behavior. My mom got in a fight with my boyfriend about breastfeeding and she refused to stay the week she planned to to help us out (I had a c Section he is clueless about babies) well his mom (who I met 5 months before our baby was born) came over everyday after work from 4:30p-10pm. I would have been okay with it but she hogged the baby so much I couldn't breastfeed her. They gave her formula (because it was easier and his mom could feed her), they wouldn't let me give her a bath or anything. This goes on for two weeks (my SO paternity leave was only two weeks) so I had no idea if I could even take care of our baby by myself. So I ask him to ask his mom not to come over that night because I wanted to see if I could do everything myself (I became a SAHM so I had to learn since this is my first baby) well since I asked him to ask her not to come over that night it has been basically silent from his family. They occassionally ask to see our baby maybe once a month and they live 15 minutes away. Half the time I am asking them to watch her so I can get the house cleaned. And they always act like it's an inconvienance. This is the first grandchild for both sets of parents! So now on to my mom. After she got over herself (she started the fight and said TWRRIBLE things to my SO) she asks us to come visit. So I take our baby down there for the weekend to see them. My SO works the first two weekends of the month and most of the other two weekends he's working overtime so I go down there when we can. Well I am always having to take care of our baby the entire time we are down there after she says every time she invites us that she wants to take care of her and I can come back home if I want (I live two hours away just one way so I'm not driving 8 hours total for her to be there for two days when I can just stay and visit as well. Well most of the time if she's not asking me to do chores (fold laundry, clean kitchen, babysit my 9 year old sister(which I don't care about doing that my sister is AMAZING she is so good with our baby I am so proud of her and love spending time with her) and run errands and a lot of other stuff that well I have to do already at my house so why do I want to be invited to come home and relax when I don't get to relax I have to tend to my baby and do their chores). So anyways it's like they only invite me to come clean their house and do her volunteer work for free(I wouldn't mind not being paid if they watched my baby while I did the work but Bella (my sister) and I are watching her and some stuff Bella just can't do and I will not ask her to do and if she doesn't want to play with our baby I won't make her so mostly it's me watching my baby and doing someone else's house work).... well this weekend I've about had enough. My mom asks us to come down for weeks and I haven't been able to. I got sick then our baby got sick and then it was my SO 5 day off weekend so I didn't want to last weekend so I said I would come this weekend. Well my mom basically sat on the couch asleep the entire weekend complaining of a headache but it was gone by the time we went out to eat Saturday night. Saturday morning I had a hair appointment and left our baby with my mom I get back and she's sound asleep and my sister is watching her (I don't mind) but then she gets pissed when I say we can't stay tomorrow because I have to go to my SO sisters birthday lunch. So this entire weekend I was dealing with a fussy baby (screaming non stop all week basically) and I get to his sisters house for the lunch and his mom and other family members barely acknowledge our baby. The only time his mom picked her up was when she was choking on spit up and I was patting her back and making sure she was okay and his mom grabbed her from me and took her to the other room(she has no boundaries and thinks she knows best) the rest of the 5 hours we were there his dad, his youngest sister(birthday girl), or I am playing with her..... I then ask his mom at the very end before we are leaving if she's free sometime next weekend to see the baby because I needed to clean out the third room and I couldn't do it with our baby because I have no idea what's in there and don't want her getting hurt. She acts like it's a huge inconvienance and was like uhm we can try but we want to go out on the boat (my SO boat not theirs) but maybe the other day they can. She says it with no excitement and basically gives me the impression she doesn't want to....... I just don't understand why our child's grandparents want nothing to do with her!!!!! She is an AMAZING baby! Barely cries unless she's at home alone with me. She is so sweet and nice and everyone including grandparents say she is the best baby they've ever seen! So why do they want nothing to do with her!? I had my grandparents fight over me but now I am struggling to be a good mother and a good girlfriend and tend to the house because I get no help from anyone and I don't want to ask my partner to watch her on his only off day when he works 12 hour shifts every day to get the bills paid off! Actually he couldn't watch her this weekend anyways he is working regular hours. So it's like I am a single parent with no family. And it grinds my gears because not only am I about to go nuts trying to keep everything together but I am so mad that they don't want anything to do with our baby! It's not fair to her!!!! She is a sweetheart (again as long as she's not with me for some reason she's just fussy with me but I've seen her with other people including them and she's perfect they've also said she's perfect) and she doesn't deserve to be neglected like this! I just don't know what to do anymore. Is this normal and I just need to get over the fact that her grandparents never want to see her? How do I make up for that!? Has anyone else gone through this? What do I do!? How do I manage the household work and taking care of my baby without having to stay up all night and do it while she sleeps?