He doesn't want to recognise his baby!

So...a little back story. My fiance and I did not plan this pregnancy but when we found out we decided to keep it and to get married sooner (this year). But tonight he came to me and said that if I don't pierce my daughters ears when she is born (I want to wait for her to make the decision for herself) then he will not recognise her there will be no wedding I will raise her with my mom and he will not care for her at all. This is the second time hes done this. The first time he said those things because I refused to name her the same as my mom his mom and the godmother (they all have the same name) but we found another name that we were both ok with.. If it was one time it would've been ok but is already the second time and I can't live like this anymore... I started packing but being 37 weeks pregnant I need help to take my stuff back home so I'm waiting until morning. I feel like I am going to faint and I am so hurt but he doesn't even care..he went to bed like nothing happend. I don't even know how to react...what do you do in a situation like this? For such a basic thing to stop giving a fuck...