Hello ladies. I posted this in a different group but I want to put it here as well. I just found this group and I believe I will get the kind of responses I'm looking for from a group of Christian women. Thank you in advance and sorry for the long post..

"I recently learned of my husband's porn addiction. We'll have been married 4 years in September. We've removed temptation in the home. I've put parental blocks on his devices and am monitoring his activity- by his request, so I'm not just being overbearing. He asked for my help with getting away from this. There were many lies leading up to my discovering this by way of credit card statements... My struggle is, how do we rebuild trust after this coming out? I never expected this from my husband but here we are and I'm stumped. Please help."

Because of our mutual convictions regarding this subject, he lied because he feels shame that he struggles with this - and that as a godly man I guess he's "better than this sin"? Which I understand. I'm struggling with being a helpmate to my husband and dealing with my own hurt, betrayal, and self esteem issues. I am struggling with "fixing" him when I am broken but I know he's hurting. I know that only God can give us the strength and faith to persevere through this and I am trying to let go and let Him take this but it's proving difficult. I know I need to forgive my husband but that also is hard. Any insight that you ladies may have is greatly appreciated. How do I truly forgive my husband? How can I trust him again? How do I give it to God?