Is it him or me?...

We've been married for almost two years now. In the beginning it wasn't a honey moon stage. We were always upfront and real with each other. We argued like a married couple straight from the start. But ever since he joined the military he's been horrible. They say people change after basic training but I don't think he changed in the way most people do. When he was in tech school (happens after basic training) he never wanted to call or Skype me. I was living 30 hours away working two jobs which were 13 hour days. With zero days off between the two of them. All I asked for was a quick 5 minute phone call before he went off to play pool with his friends. He would barley do that. Fast forward six months we got our first place together on base. Things have been horrible. He doesn't ever want to spend time with me. He doesn't ever want to go out unless it's his idea (even if it's something we both love). He never cuddles with me. I'm 37 weeks pregnant and the whole time I haven't worked because of migraines and other things that I kept having to call into work for. So we both decided it would be fine for me to stay at home. Well ever since I stopped working he has told me I don't work so I don't get to decide how the money is spent. I had to beg him to start buying diapers so we could be prepared. He never wanted to even touch my belly until a few weeks ago. Nowadays he spends up to 12 hours after work playing video games. I clean cook do laundry budget and meal plan. He does absolutely nothing besides the cat boxes. Which I've done multiple times because he's refused. He mentions how much weight I've gained and nonchalantly calls me fat. I was 113 before and now I'm 160. Ob says it's perfectly fine since I started underweight. Anyways he constantly calls me crazy, emotional, and says "you're just pregnant" every time I get upset with something he does. It sucks because I literally spend all day alone and then he comes home and I'm still alone. Stuck in my room because he doesn't let me use the tv. And if I am watching tv he will go into another room to watch anime. If I try to go into the same room as him to even sit next to him he will get up and leave. The only time he pays attention to me is if I let him have sex with me. I just feel so alone. I don't have any friends or anyone to talk to. I cry every single day. A lot of the time it's multiple times. Anyways sorry for the long post and I doubt anyone has read this far but just wanted to see if I'm truly being dramatic like he says or if it's somehow not just my fault.

Ps I have tried so hard to get him to spend time with me. I even watch his silly shows with him but he still won't cuddle. Or sit by me. He says if I want to divorce him that it's "my problem" and "good luck since you don't have any money".

Update: he's been like this for a year and a half not just during my pregnancy. So no it's not him fearing to become a dad.