Have you had a mental break down?

Question

I'm at my limit where I need to cry by myself. I'm emotionally mentally and physically drained. 
I'm pregnant and tired all the time on top of never getting a break as a SAHM from the moment I wake up to the moment I go to bed. I'm cooking cleaning or watching the baby. When my mom or husband give me a break... I use it to sleep, clean or shower. FOR MY FREE TIME I SHOWER! I just needed to vent. 
I'm so tired guys and I feel like people think I could be doing more but I just want one day of doing nothing and having it taken care of for me. Am I alone?

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Many. I struggle with depression and anxiety, I have my whole life, and I'm on medication. There was this tiny ounce of hope in me that thought "well surely when I have a baby it will bring me daily joy at least, right? Give me a different outlook, make my world happier." Nope. instead I find myself looking at my very happy, smiley, laughing baby and think to myself "What was I thinking bringing this innocent baby into my world of misery?" then I just feel even more guilty. I'm a SAHM with no help, no friends, no life, my SO works 12-15 hour days, and when he is home we are struggling with many relationship issues so our time together isn't even a "happy place" for me. Some days I can feel like mom of the year, other days I just wish I could leave and just be alone. Not only do I need a break for myself but I feel like my baby deserves a break from me and my miserable mood. I've lost my individuality completely, which is huge for me. I have always been a little wild, free spirited, and very independent. So I feel like a fire fly that's been trapped in a jar, with my light and fire slowly dying. So yeah, I've had my share of break downs and bad days.

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I actually had one 2 days ago. I had one whenever my son was about 5 days old and I thought that was all I was going to have. I was so stressed that day. We both work from home and for a couple of days, he didn't want to help me AT ALL. I always get up with baby, make bottles, diaper changes, baths, etc. but he was just not with it. I felt so bad for going off on him but I was just so angry and needed a time to cry.

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Yup. Actually seems like most of my days lately are one long, continued mental breakdown and I seem to have developed postpartum anxiety because of this also.
My son has been an easy-ish baby until he started crawling, climbing and throwing tantrums. Now it seems like it's an every second of the day kind of job. If i happen to be able to go to the bathroom alone (extremely rarely) it is always with two cats and a child sitting by the door squealing at me. I've given up on taking baths alone, it's just too much drama.
My husband tries to help but he is tired from going to work and working on our new house basically every weekend for half a year now, and I don't get any help apart from him. Definately not having a second child until this one is older and able to help at least by sitting still for a minute.

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Girl I'm right there with you. 25 weeks pregnant, my daughter will be a year in 2 weeks, I work full time from home and take care of baby girl. Literally showering is what I do when I get a moment to myself. 😭

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My daughter turned 11 months yesterday! She's a relatively "easy" baby and we moved back in with my parents after I gave birth so we have lots of help. I swear if it wasn't for both my mom and MIL I would have completely lost it!
Back in April, my daughter was basically sick for the entire month and she was teething simultaneously! My husband just started his new job when she got sick-- where he works is about an hour away without traffic AND he starts at 8 am so because of this I sent him back to our place to sleep since I don't start work until noon!My mom and I barely got any sleep during the entire month of April. We would take turns trying to get her to sleep!
Then at the end of May she hit a sleeping regression and has been sleeping with us ever since. Our bed isn't necessarily big enough for all of us so there's been more than a few times I didn't get enough sleep.
On top of this I have post partum depression so I swear it just makes everything worse!

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I actually can't imagine a mother who hasn't had a mental breakdown! The newborn stage was the hardest for me. The first 4 months I broke down severely every other night. Right now it's much better. I'm lucky to say my child sleeps well, eats well, Poops well, is happy and healthy. My issue is more life atm. We just came back from a 2 week holiday. Those two weeks were incredibly hugely taxing on my body. I'm 21 weeks pregnant and I walked some days 5 hours while on holiday, other days I spent stressing over my child, either because he was uncomfortable with all the people around and was being very clingy, or he'd gotten comfortable and was running around causing havoc and with so many people in a non baby proofed surrounding, I had to be behind watching him constantly. Being a mother is the hardest thing ever. I got no break. And then I fell ill the day before we flew home. That plane ride was torture. Baby crying, I'm crying from ear pressure pain. And then we get home jet lagged as hell to find out our landlord wants us to move out within the week. Luckily we know where we're moving to as he's given us another place. But jet lagged, ill and 5 months pregnant with an 11 month old who runs and climbs and suddenly because of holiday doesn't listen to no and is sleeping badly and not eating great..... To move out of a house in 4 days?! I'm on the verge of a breakdown.

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Stop worrying about to do lists. Do what makes u and your family happy. When everyone is happy it's easier to tackle those to do lists together!

Have you had a mental break down?

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