Hi all! I'm a FTM. I gave birth to my daughter in February of this year and was so excited to begin this journey with my little family. My partner proposed to me in December of last year and our wedding was supposed to be November 2018. My daughter stayed in the hospital for 5 days after birth due to jaundice and weight loss. My milk did not want to come in and I struggled to get her to latch. We eventually had to supplement with some formula to get her weight back up. I was discharged from the hospital with strict instructions to pump every 2 hours to help my supply come in. I was also told to ensure my visitors were kept to a minimum if possible so that I could focus on pumping and recovering. I had an all natural delivery and pushed for 2 hours straight. I tore quite bad and had several stitches. I should also mention that there was an outbreak of the mumps in my town and nurses urged us to wash our hands and sanitize constantly. Especially our guests, should we choose to have any. The second day after arriving home, my fiancé and I began to argue constantly. I was focused on trying to heal and have my supply come in while bond with daughter. I also needed to ensure i was in good shape for when he went back to work in a couple of weeks. All he was concerned about was having people over; specifically, his mother. Now I didn't dislike my MIL prior to this but she is a very overbearing woman. She was all over the place when visiting us in the hospital and was difficult about washing her hands before holding my daughter. I explained that I would much rather limit visitation and focus on getting settled. We had both sides of the family come visit us twice in the hospital so everyone got a fair chance to meet her. He did not understand. Our arguing continued to get worse and his mother was behind it. Eventually she started to come over and would not follow my rules. She's a smoker and would constantly kiss My daughter, even after being asked not to. She wouldn't wash her hands and when i said something, got mad at me. It got to the point where she would come visit and not speak to me. My partner said he had my back but he did nothing about it. I eventually found messages from her in his phone where she called me several awful names and told my partner that I have PPD and was denying it. My 6 week PP checkup was soon and she told him to come into my app and tell my doc that I was denying having PPD and that they would need that info for the courts!? Umm, what? We're getting married, what do you mean the courts. Of course I confronted him on it and he came up with some story and said it was only said in anger. I was cleared of PPD and I knew that I did not have it. But it is pretty sick to know that had i been suffering from it, she was planning to use it against me somehow, instead of getting me help. Our arguments continued. It got so bad that my supply eventually dried up. I was devastated and my partner did not seem to care about me or my health at all. one day, everything blew up. There was a huge argument and I had to move out. It turned out that my MIL was very upset about the fact that she could not show up unannounced or that she had to follow any rules. She was also upset that I would not allow her to take my daughter for sleepovers but she was only a couple of months old at the time. And she smokes in her home. Because of all of this, she was trying to build a case against me to have my daughter taken away from me. I had to move back in with my mother and my now ex fiancé has been coming to see my daughter a couple of times a week. He swears that he never planned for any of that to happen but we have not reconciled. I don't know that I can. And after months of this, he has now decided to take me to court for sole custody. I am honest to God a good mom. I have a good job, I am financially stable and my daughter is my life. I don't know how someone that was supposed to love me forever could stand by and watch this happen. His mother is so manipulative and has destroyed my life. Now we are going to court and I can't even enjoy my mat leave with my daughter. My daughter is now 6 months old and has passed major milestones such as: rolling over, eating solid food, sitting up on her own and developing the cutest personality. We are not sharing these moments as a family. The saddest part of all, is that my daughter will not have a normal life after this. She will not grow up with both of her parents living together and will have to deal with the courts and constant drama from her grandmother until she's old enough to make decisions for herself. I feel so defeated. I don't know how any of this will get better. I keep thinking this is a bad nightmare that I'll wake up from one day. im scared as hell to go to court. I'm so scared of what my ex MIL is going to try to do to me. Has anyone ever experienced a custody battle while dealing with nasty in laws? I could really use some words of encouragement.