Natural!?!

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I know I'm early in my pregnancy and I really shouldn't think about this until later on in the process but I'm starting to question do I want to have a c-section or a natural vaginal birth my family has been telling me to do this and that but I wanna do what I wanna do the problem is I don't know what I want to do I know I have plenty of time to think but I'm just a type of,person who just wants to get things done and organized at the beginning so I won't have to go back and gather everything. But I also feel very cautious about natural because I had my first baby that way but when she came,out she was dead and it crushed me because I felt like it was all my fault my parents didn't want me to keep her because she was a product of rape but I didn't care I wanted her more than anything I was scared and I'm feeling that same fear that I'll lose this one.

*HELP WANTED*

-McKenzie 😒

*HELP WANTED*
-McKenzie 😒

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I personally feel that a c-section should be a last resort, however, this is a decision you need to make with your doctor and your husband. You need to do what's best for the baby and only your doctor can advise you as to what's best for him/her.

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You should never want a c-section unless it's medically necessary for you to have one. It's a major surgery and the recovery could be worse than not only the recovery of a natural birth but also worse than having the baby naturally in general. There are many benefits to you and your baby to have it naturally as well. I am not putting down anyone who has delivered via c-section I am thankful that it exists. However I do think owe it to ourselves and our babies to try to have a vaginal birth when possible. I am sorry to hear about your previous experience but your baby did not pass away because she was delivered naturally and it was not your fault. These things just happen.

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I'm so sorry for your past suffering and loss you have experienced. You are a strong woman! Now that being said, my first was a c section (not elective!) and I have had 2 vaginal births since. Having gone through both, I would never ever choose the c section. I'm hoping for my 3rd vaginal delivery in September. The recovery was so much better and i was up and walking around, just feeling overall so much better much quicker with my 2 vaginal deliveries. Good luck!!

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I had both of my kids vaginally & now am 16 weeks with twins, I would love to have them vaginally, which can happen with twins but depends on their position when I go into labor. If I have to have a c-section that's ok with me, I just want the babies to be healthy. Choosing to have a c-section isn't really a choice by preference, they do them when there's a clear reason to, like emergency, if it's safer for the baby, baby's position ect. Think it would be something your doctor will choose if at the time if they feel you need one.

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So you can talk about this to them but you can't talk to me and we live in the same house seriously

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I chose to have a c section with my first bc at the time my mom was still alive and going through chemo and I wanted to make sure she was going to be there the day my daughter was born. And also the thought of natural scares me to death lol my dr said its normal and a lot of people are afraid of natural. The way you chose to birth your child is entirely up to you and no one else. Don't let anyone not even family tell you other wise. You do what's good for you! Good luck!

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I'm so extremely sorry that happened to you!!  Tons and tons of people choose to have c sections. It is a surgery with a recovery but honestly after what you went through if you think that will keep you calmer and less stressed out then I would choose that. There is nothing wrong with choosing to get a c section. Celebrities do it all the time (for different reasons than this) and so do other people. Please don't let anyone make you feel bad about considering it. You should do what makes you feel the most confident and comfortable.  You can do it either way...good luck honey!