Am I expecting too much?

Question

Ok so I need an outsiders opinion. 
Me and my parter have been together for almost 2 years, we both study full time and work part time. I work nights and Saturdays, he works Thursday and Saturday. 
Sometimes I feel like I've just 'settled' for him and i'm not sure if i'm just overreacting but this is just one example of him:
Tonight I was working 5-9, it got to 7 and he asked how work was and I told him that I was leaving because I had an argument with my manager, I was upset and so I told my manager I was going to go home and be back tomorrow. Anyways I told him and he said "aw, i'm going to the gym come over after" which is like yeh ok fine i will but he didn't even ask if I was ok or what happened. So anyways I leave work at 7 and go to his to hang with his sister until he's back from gym then when I'm with him I get nothing, he just chats for about half an hour with me and his sister then falls asleep on the sofa so I say i'm going home. I then messaged him saying I need some time away from him because i don't feel like myself lately and things are getting too much to which he replies "ok well it makes me feel like shit that you don't wanna see me but you gotta do what you gotta do" ...... again, not even asking if i'm ok or whatever. I reply saying this... *picture attached* and that's the response I get....

like why does he not ask me if i'm ok or comfort me in any way? we've spoke about it a few time and i've told him but it never changes? What can I say to him? I'm now sat in bed typing this and crying because I feel like I just need someone to cheer me up and tell me it's all fine but he's not there for me? 
P.s I normally wouldn't message him about things like this, I would normally say it to him in person but because I had already been crying over my argument with my manager, I couldn't even say it without crying again.

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It sounds like you're being passive aggressive so he's not really understanding because you're saying you want one thing (space) but you really want him to be more attentive and affectionate. So the solution is that you need to learn how to communicate your needs... so if you're upset you need to say "I felt like you didn't want me over last night because you fell asleep when I got there. I really needed you to talk to me about what happened at work because I was upset". You need to be clear and explicit about what you really want, most men don't read between the lines so you need to literally say what's bothering you, not say something different to test him to see if he cares.

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I'll be honest some people just aren't good with comforting. maybe he is one of those people. 
I think before breaking it off with him you should have told him how to felt. or maybe talked to him about your work issues without him asking?
he could have also just been waiting for you to talk to him about it. or not talking about it so you didnt have to think about it?
remember guys think differently then us. it's how they were built. I would just have a deep conversation with him before you just throw it all away.

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Men aren't wired the same way we are. Tell him what you actually need and expect from him and give it a few weeks to see if he starts making the effort. From the exchanges you've pictured and described it sounds to me like he has zero clue that you're even upset or why. You said you wanted space, he gave you space lol.

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Try being honest with him instead of passive aggressive and fishing for him to rush at you to make you feel better. Geez. And it's really not even the end of the world why you were upset. He asked you to come over, you could've talked to him then. Maybe he thought you didn't want to discuss it so he didn't ask. Calm down!! I think you're expecting too much, sorry!

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Sounds like he turns things around on himself so that he's portrayed as the victim. For him it's all "me me me" and never about you. And you've talked to him about this before and he still hasn't changed. 
I'd just dump him. He needs to mature more and you need someone who will actually care about your thoughts and feelings.

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It doesn't seem like he's that committed to the relationship. I just got married and my H and I took a short break when we were first together. He cried every time I spoke with him. He showed emotion and I knew we would work it out. If I said I need a break and my SO just said "ok" I'd definitely be rethinking the relationship. Especially since you've talked to him about this before. Maybe try one more time. Explain that he's not giving you what you need from a SO.

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If you feel like you're settling, I'd assume you are. Just because you've been together for 2 years doesn't mean you have to stay.

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