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Question

So Im im this relationship with my wonderful boyfriend and i love him so much we have been together for a year and i dont want to lose him but i want to live my life and party and run around and have fun for a few years bur he wants us to settle down and move in and live happily ever after and trust me i do too but i also want to see what else there is and have fun but i dont want to lose my love....i really do love him to death but im scared to settle down so young while i can still run around and go to work hiding a hangover like i dont want to be boring. We do have fun as a couple, we go out and go dancing and mess around and stuff but its not marking rhings off my bucket list and im scared to bring it up to him....

Answer

If your heart is speaking to you this loudly I think you should definitely consider exploring. Perhaps there’s something you both need to learn before returning to each other. He seems like such a nice guy, with a big heart, maybe a little insecure, but he really, truly adores you, doesn’t want to lose you... I feel like he’d be waiting for you no matter how long you left, even if he ended up getting married to someone else, I believe the love you two have will still be there. And that’s the way worst case, maybe you’ll go to 1 party and say “this isn’t for me?” But if I were you I would do my best not to take advantage of his big heart, or make him feel unwanted, so I would say exactly how I feel.. if that leads to separation, perhaps it’s for the best at this time. If you’re ready to commit to wife-hood and eventually motherhood, the universe will show you the direction

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As long as "seeing what else there is" doesn't refer to other guys, there's nothing wrong with wanting to go a little crazy while you're young. Is there any reason why you can't live with him and "settle down" while still partying and having fun? It sounds like you could probably come up with a good compromise here. However if "seeing what else there is" means dating/fucking other guys, then you need to break up with your man first. Unless he has explicitly stated that he's okay with it, you can't go around sleeping with other people while you're in a relationship.

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I wouldn’t do it until you are ready. I had a friend who got married before she was ready (she still wanted to be “free” go out and do her own thing) and it ended in a nasty divorce.

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