Gender neutral

I'm tired of parents saying their going to raise their child gender neutral. Yes I can understand not making them play with toys, play sports, or wear dresses just bc of their gender. I completely understand that I do the same with my child. But yet there are a lot of parents doing this for the wrong reasons. I'll give you some examples. I've seen about 9 parents saying their child is being raised gender neutral. Yet all you see is them dressed, named, and treated as the opposite gender not both. About 5 saying this but making their daughter follow a dress code. 3 has said this and not giving the same equal rights for the child as the opposite sex. Most do this so their child is treated the same. But others are doing this to act like they are so accepting. Like when someone who is white says there not racist bc they voted for Obama. How about you see what your kids like and let them choose, not chose for them. If your really wanting them to be who they want how about letting them pick the clothes, toys, hobbies, and even let them legally choose their name.