CLARIFICATION: My SO is taking business SEX CALLS?? UPDATE*#6

Really need some help with this one. My husband works in sales (life insurance) and he's always taking "business" calls. He always leaves the room and tells the person "hold on just one second" or something crazy sketchy like that......

I always ask him what the name is and why he's soooo secretive but he DOESNT TELL ME. it's terrible. I know he's cheating. He always leaves after saying "I'm sorry I gottta go. This is a hot one, I'll be quick."😓 he says in the sales environment "hot one" means "very likely client" but I don't believe that AT ALL.

we've talked about him leaving the room and he says it's because I always sing when a he gets a sales call or talk to him. But I can't help it. I feel so threatened by all his "clients" which are really women hoping for sex. I can't take it anymore. I hate this situation. I've even looked up some of his "clients" on Facebook or IG and it says they're single!!!!!!!! He's full of crap. I just DONT THINK these are "customers" I believe they are single women wishing for sex.

Update: I talked to him about my concerns but honestly I think I'll be leaving. He's always keeping records of these women's heights and weights and it makes me too uncomfortable. He says that he's not the one who weighs them but I just can't trust him. He even asked my mom if he could quote her. He's a sick man ladies. I know you cant see it but believe me if you were in my situation you'd be worried too. He calls these women like three times a day, I've checked the phone records. I've never caught him cheating or anything like that but the way his conversations go with his "clients" sounds so fake I feel they're talking in code. He says this is a "fucking stupid ass reason to leave and break up a family." Where does he get off talking to me like that's? This is all so wrong. I'm not going to keep allowing myself to be emotionally abused and CHEATED ON.

Update: Jokes on you ladies! Today when I was going through his work computer I found MULTIPLE EMAILS ABOUT NETWORKING GROUPS!!!!! He told me he would be going to a networking event and that I shouldn't wait up for him. I looked through the emails and some were saying WILL YOUR PARTNER BE JOINING YOU AGAIN THIS TIME. My husband has NEVER brought me to a networking event EVER. But apparently he has a "partner" who gets to go????? Yeah. An IM A NUT for thinking he's up to something.....you ladies are naive.

Update: we talked a little more about the questionable things I found on his laptop. Looks like he's been attending these events with a man named Steve. He has gone to these events in the past with him and stayed at hotels due to some events being out of state. This is very odd to me because he has never mentioned Steve at all. I was at first afraid it was a women but he showed me the reservation emails which all have Steve listed as a guest and him CC info. I'm still a little concerned because there are multiple massage packages that have been included in these hotel stays now that I am seeing the emails. I'm afraid I may have been going after the wrong fish. I believe now my husband is gay. I will continue updating you all as I know you all don't have all the info either and your advice on this situation is definitely needed.

Update: you ladies have got some nerve with the thinks you say and what you assume. No, it is NOT illegal to look someone up on FB. it's not their damn SSN or credit info🙄 also I DO HAVE A JOB. Don't just assume he's carrying all the weight. That's far from the truth. Geez you ladies and your assumptions.

Update: I would just like to say that I am appalled by the way so of you women treat others whom are going through issues less fortunate than your own. I am not some crazy, paranoid women! My husband is a loving man who tried hard to gain trust but just when I start, something happens that make me grow my suspicions. I've been having a sick feeling about his work life for a very long time and I do believe in trusting your intuitions. I'm doing so, let me share what I have since found:

1. A dildo thrown in a grocery bag hidden in our basement. I looked to see if it was new, there was blood.

2. Went to his office and he was "at lunch with Steve" I waited there for TWO hours.

3. Steve's wife told me yesterday they are going through trust issues due to multiple affairs he's had in the past. Apparently he DOES have a history of sleeping with clients.

You ladies don't know it all. I don't either. My thread is for venting as I am going through hell right now. I am private because I do have people I know whom use this app as well. I'd appreciate the harsh words to cease as my life is being turned upside-down and words do hurt. Thank you.

Update 6

Hello ladies. I have been debating whether or not I should put out another update.....mainly because some of you guys are so rude I feel it ridiculous to give an update just to amuse people that only read to ridicule me. But there have also been plenty of positive, kind responses. That is who this update is for.

First, to answer some questions, I am still unsure about the bloody dildo. My husband left with Steve for a business trip Thursday before I found the dildo.

Second, I left prior to Steve and my husband's arrival the day I waited at his office to have lunch with my husband. I felt like a fool.

Come to find out, the reason they had not shown up is because their office manager text my husband to tell him I was waiting there. My husband was purposely avoiding me. After finding the dildo and speaking with Steves wife (Julie), we have worked together to find more clues. We searched through bank accounts, notepads, business files- you name it. Just as we thought we were at a dead-end, we found another price of evidence supporting our husbands are not the men we think they are. Julie found several of her clothes hidden in Steves closet with rips and tears. We're not sure what this means, but we're quite confused and uncomfortable. Upon finding this, I went to my own home and found in one of my husbands suitcases that he's been neglecting to unpack an old pair of pants of mine with a cut in the crotch and a wedding photo of us with my head cut out.

We plan on presenting these things to our husbands separately and getting together to try making sense of what we've been told. They get back tomorrow.