roommate woes...

okay, everyone. here's the tea, the whole tea, and nothing but the tea.

my roommate used to be one of my closest friends, but now living with her is AWFUL. she has the WORST attitude, and won't take care of the apartment with me. she won't wash her dishes--or even RINSE them--and if i ask her to do something small like rinsing the dishes or taking out the garbage, she gets really whiny and says she can't because she has homework, or a test the next day. maybe i'm being insensitive, but i have homework and tests too, and i have the time to clean up after both of us.

one time, she made cookies on a sunday, and left the mixing bowl WITH a lot of dough left inside, just to rot on the counter. like...what does she think is gonna happen??? the birds and mice are going to come in and do the cleaning for her?? so i confronted her about it on THURSDAY and asked her if she wouldn't mind rinsing it out, and if she could please do that next time too. and she squinted her eyes at me, and got really snippy and said "there's barely any left, so no."

??!?!!?!?!?!?!?!?!

i can't ask her to rinse a dish or take out the garbage, but she has asked me to mop the floors, wipe the cabinets, sweep the hallway, and clean the bathrooms because she's having her friends over to get drunk off of booze that i paid for. but when i have my one singular friend over, or if my family comes to visit, she hides in her room or is really brusque and rude to them. her attitude is so lousy.

i have asked her several times to clean up her own dishes, spills, to throw out her rotting food that she knows has gone bad, take out her trash, etc. i have asked her as nicely as i can, and every time she gets really snarky and asks why i can't do it. i have mental illnesses, a chronic illness, and a disability, all of which cause fatigue. i only have a certain amount of energy a day, and i can't always use it on cleaning up. sometimes i need to use that energy for work or school. i'm doing the best i can to manage our apartment with the energy i have, i just don't have that energy all the time. i know she's busy, and i don't want to pressure her, but i don't think she's being a very good roommate or a very good friend. i feel like we should split the responsibilities, and i don't think that should be too much to ask.

i try my best to be considerate of her and her needs, but i let her walk all over me because i don't want her to stop being my friend. but....if she was really my friend, she wouldn't quit our friendship if i asked her to pull her weight, right??? i'm tired of her taking advantage of my love for her, and treating me like a maid robot who doesn't have feelings and only exists to clean up her messes.

what are some of your worst roommate stories??? how did you resolve them???