Would you be irritated?

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My husband’s mother lives about 30-35 mins from us. She is constantly coming to visit when it’s ALWAYS around dinner time. Which leaves me to figure out what to make and cook for the three of us. She’s a picky eater, too. Sunday, the day before I had to go in to work two twelve hour shifts, I ended up cooking a turkey loin, biscuits, green beans and wild rice by myself...while he and his mom sat on the couch and talked and watched TV the entire time. I even set the table and everything while they did their thing. She keeps saying she’s going to invite us to dinner at her place on night, but it’s been like this for two years and she has yet to cook a meal at her place. Oh, wait...she DID cook a meal for my husband when she knew I was working. There have also been a few times we’ve bought her dinner. If I ate at someone’s house as much as she does and knew the person had to work the next day, I’d offer to bring a dish or at least ask if I could help. Am I wrong for being irritated by this?

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she should not be coming over often and unannounced
your man should have put a stop to this long ago

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Petty me says why dont you just not cook? Say you already ate and let them figure it out. 
But normal me is like talk to your husband about your feelings.

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Honestly, I wouldn’t cook anything if I knew she was coming. I’d go take a nice long bath and drink some tea. They can make their own food, it’s not your job to cook for either of them. If your husband lets his mom come over all the time, he can start making dinner for her.

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i would just stop cooking dinner for everyone. cook dinner just for yourself and sneak into your bedroom with out anyone noticing. you need to set some boundries because at this point shes using you. she doesn't help cook or set the tabpe and she doesnt bring anything or offer to pay for any food. i would tell your husband that your not cooking for her anymore unless she is invited.

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No. It’s your time for YOUR FAMILY. Which is you and your husband. You need to tell him to put his foot down. She needs to call or plan when she’s coming over. It’s ridiculous that she drops in whenever. Once a week is plenty as far as I’m concerned.

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I would be so pissed if my MIL did that. She shouldn’t just be stopping by and then expect to be fed! 🤦🏻‍♀️ You should talk to your husband and tell him that you’ve had enough, that he needs to talk to his mom and tell her to quit it.

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That’s annoying af . Tell your husband but he may get butthurt cuz it’s his mom 🙄 say she can only come on sundays or something .

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One of my So's buddies used to do this, not his mom but still annoying, I trained (for lack of a better word) him to stop this is what I did: When he would unexpectedly stop by at dinner time we wouldn't eat, the most get would get was tap water, when we invited him to come for dinner I would pull out all the stops and be really generous. Eventually  he stopped coming uninvited at dinner time.

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I would tell your husband maybe 1-2 times a month. However, would you still be cooking the same stuff if it was just your husband? I would tell your husband to set the table. Instead of sitting there doing everything, speak up! Also, I would cook whatever you want and not worry about her picky pallet.

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I'd just cook whatever I want. Say this is what we're having for dinner, your welcome to join us, if not she can go home to her own fridge. And if you make things she doesn't like maybe she won't come over as often. She can't blame you for making something she doesn't like when she showed up unannounced.

Would you be irritated?

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