Unwanted pregnancy?

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Okay long story short my daughter is 10 months old and I’m pregnant 🤰🏾 again. Period 🔴was due yesterday so I’m not far along(Thank God🙌🏾) but I’m crushed😌. The guy responsible I’ve been knowing for about like 6 years he’s my best friend ❤️in a way but he’s not my 1st child’s father. 
 I told him to wear a condom and after he some how got out of not wearing one I begged him to pull out and he didn’t😢. He seems fully supportive of my decision of an abortion but I just feel like this whole situation could’ve been avoided! I don’t know what to think of him anymore. I’m hurt cause he knows I want to continue on my path of success before more kids and he does this too me. 
 🗣 I don’t believe in abortions!! I feel like they chase bad karma plus it’s not right but what choice do I have ?!! He caused all of this and now I’m numb and don’t know what to do ...

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He caused all of this? You made the adult decision to have sex. Yes, you asked him to wear a condom and No, he didn't. You also asked him to pull out, he didn't do that either. However, this is as much YOUR fault as it is his. Birth control is not only the man's job, if you didn't want to get pregnant you should be on the pill, implant, shot, or have used a female condom, there are other options as well. Also, knowing full well that he didn't use a condom you shouldn't have let him have sex with you; or stopped him once it began. In addition this is why Plan B was invented. So no, it isn't JUST his fault. It's yours also.

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no honey it takes 2 to have sex you chose to continue after he refused a condom. it's your fault too. if you don't believe in abortion don't get one. it's not the babys fault you made a poor decision. But you can not blame him for the choices you made

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Did plan B not cross your mind? And do you actually want to get an abortion or no? Kind of confused and seems like there is some cognitive dissonance going on here.

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I had an abortion and honestly ive never regretted my decision or really given much thought to "what if..." theres nothing wrong with it and none of this bad karma u speak of has come my way 🙄

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if you don't believe in abortions I'd try to make it work.. the guilt of having one is no fun to carry around. I got so far as to schedule my appointment to get an abortion but changed my mind and I couldn't be happier. Totally up to you though.

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he sounds like a bit of a gross person to have pressured you like that, him finishing inside you after you told him not to is not ok - it is a violation. At the end of the day, you have to make the right choice for you as you will be living with the responsibility of that child. Adoption is an option if you aren't comfortable with abortion as you have stated, in terms of good karma points giving a baby to people who desperately want one is going to win you lots of points. My suggestion is to be in charge of the birth control situation from now on (the pill, mirena, whatever) and to remember that condoms are used to try and prevent STDs being spread as well as for contraception.

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He didn't cause anything. Youre a grown ass adult and YOU can say no or insist on protection. Don't blame him for this situation you're both as responsible (or irresponsible) as eachother

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Instead of attacking her for circumstance, why not just offer her the advice she needs?
You don't want to abort, and that's fine. 
You could consider adoption, open or closed, with a family who desperately wants a child of their own. 
Some families will pay the medical expenses for the care of the baby through pregnancy and birth. Some will not. Look into local agencies around your area for more detail. 
You could keep the baby- but you don't have to. One of the biggest, selfless decisions you can make is knowing what's best for your child, even if that means finding them a better environment to grow up in. 
Whatever is best for you is what's best for you. No one here can change that. When the right path comes along, you'll know. 
Best of luck xx

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What choice do you have? Adoption plenty of loving families who can’t have kids,  a gay couple looking to adopt etc. most of the time I think they even help you out money for food or ways to get to your appointments etc. 
if it were me it would make me feel good inside knowing I gave a baby to a family and made them happy and probably changed their life forever. 
Or you could keep it or go thru with a abortion, but there are other options.

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Adoption is always an option. You made the decision so do the adult thing and let that baby live a life, even if it's not with you.

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