Is he done?

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On Thursday, my husband of almost 10 years told me that he is unhappy. He doesn't find joy in things that used to make him happy anymore. His solution to this is that somehow it's connected to me. That I don't pay him enough attention, which I agree that point. But, up till this point, I thought we went together like pb&j.; Since Thursday, we have had amazing sex every day. He kisses me like always, but he hasn't told me he loved me since. wtf do I do

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Go to couples counseling.  Have you read The 5 Languages of Love?

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maybe he's depressed or something? you can try going out more often even if it's to go bowling

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well, I thought I would update. He didn't come home from work till 3 am. (got off at 1130) he was at the bar. didn't get a text or call. he had to be up at 545 this morning for work. I haven't gotten more than 2 hours of sleep in the past 4 days, so I was up when he came home. I didn't get up, I didn't say anything. I got out of bed at 3 am and watched tv. I made his lunch for him, and woke him up at 545. he was out the door without a word by 600. at 6:02 I received a text from him saying he wants a divorce. that he's not happy. I asked him what happened to taking it one day at a time. he just said he's sorry he's just not happy. haven't heard a word since. he pulled a double today, if he is coming home he will be here at 1130. I have no idea what is going to happen. I asked him if he wanted to do a trial  separation, he asked what I meant and I told him. that was the end of the conversation. I am so lost

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So, tonight he got off work at 1145, he didn't come home till 3 am. I checked his credit card and he went to the bar up the street. I just don't know anymore.

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I read this other post about a woman in the same situation, but a bit worst. The way she fixed it was finally be able to convince him to go away with her for a weekend. Like a getaway or something and they just went and spent time together. Maybe you guys need to just do something fun that reminds you why you fell in love in the first place. That reminds him that he has fun with you and more. Get away from the world for a weekend, and show him why he fell in love with you.

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If he doesn't even want to try with the marriage but has been faking romance that throws up a red flag for me. Idk. Any chance he has another lady in his life?

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I did bring up counseling, and I also asked him if he wanted to see a doctor and talk about depression. He told me that he had no interest in doing any of those things, his solution is just to consider getting a divorce. I really think that we don't get to do much outside of the house and I'm hoping that if I can convince him to do some things with me that it might help.

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Please watch fireproof with him. It's on amazon. It's amazing and could possibly save your marriage

Is he done?

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