Strip clubs and relationships? * update

What are your thoughts about your SO going to strip clubs? Paying for lap dances?

I posted a similar topic last night but this is eating me up inside. My SO and I had a few drinks last night and somehow got on the topic of strip clubs. The last time he had been to one was close to a year ago. I found out the next day that he was at a strip club with his friends and I didn’t really think much about it because he told me. Last night I asked him if he had ever paid for a private dance while we’ve been together....... and without hesitation he said. “Uhhh yes” as if I asked a dumb question. I was completely taken back and feel so betrayed. He said it’s not cheating because there was no physical contact and he doesn’t see a point in arguing about it. I stayed up all night picturing a stripper all over my man over and over. It makes me sick! Especially because I was home with our children while he has a half naked woman shaking her ass and tits in his face. I feel like it’s cheating. If I gave a dude a lap dance he would be heart broken. I couldn’t even sleep next to him last night he slept on the couch and haven’t spoken to him since.