am i crazy? or am i more invested than he is?

I dated this guy back when I was in highschool.I was like head over heels for him, totally smitten,but back then he was kinda a player,never wanted long term commit.14 years later,after I moved away for a while, we meet back up.He told me how much he has grown up since our younger years,blah blah...I told him I wasn't looking for a bf,I had just gotten out of a nasty situation about 9 mos prior.As we hung put though he treated me like a princess,and because of our history I thought maybe that it was meant to be. everything was perfect, he has flaws that make me a little nuts sometimes, but I have mine too

About a mo after we moved I'm together all changed.He spent most of his awake time focused on documentarys on a lot war stuff, to the point he would sleep at his desk,even tho he knew it hurt my feelings.Almost all physical affection of any kind stopped dead,I cried for months,he kept telling me nothing had changed...fast forward about 6 wks later he comes and says he will try harder,Iq think his mom told him I was ready to leave...so over the last 3 months the physical affection has gone up and down,but even when up,its nothing compared to how it used to be.I ask him all the time if he wants to just be alone and he says he loves me so very,deeply much,but his actions show the compete opposite. I was hoping maybe some of the older ladies might know or have a little bit of a direction to where to go from here