Marriage. Step up or give up?

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This is going to be a long post, so please bare with me. 
I am 24 years old. Married for 2 years, together for 8. We have a 5 year old and a 1 year old together. 
I got pregnant at 18. I feel like I forced everything after that. I constantly talked about getting engaged. Then getting married. Once we get married, all I wanted was another baby and a house. I got all of that. 
This man takes good care of me and our children. He works out of town all week and is only home on the weekends. He does hard physical work. 
We have tried having him work closer to home so he can be home at night, but no jobs in our area pay enough. Plus, he loves his job and when he didn't work there, he was unhappy and it showed in our home life. We also tried moving closer to where he worked. But both of our families live in our hometown and we wanted our kids To grow up near them. So we bought a house and moved back. 
I recently quit my job to be a stay at home mom. I found a job I could do at home to bring in a little income. During this time, I have grown so much as a person. I have gained so much confidence. I have learned a lot about myself. I also found that me and my husband have drifted apart. 
There have always been things that bothered me about my husband. And things about our relationship. but until recently, I was able to deal with it. Now, I can't anymore. I have brought these things up to him on multiple occasions. 
One being his jealousy over my dad and our daughter's relationship. My husband isn't home, so my dad spends a lot of time with my daughter. My husband gets upset about everything my dad does. 
My husband never wants to do anything that involves my friends or my family. Just recently I missed a friends wedding because he didn't want to go. 
He is ALWAYS yelling at our 5 year old. He's more strict, I'm more laid back. He's only home 2 days a week and he always has to get upset with her over something. 
The sex isn't good. I never want to do it. I don't even care anymore. I don't want to try to "spice things up" I just want to be left alone. 
Whenever I have an issue and I bring it up, he tells me I'm being a drama queen. Or I'm being overdramatic or I'm overreacting. 
I have TOLD him all these things that bother me but nothing ever changes. He told me he would step up, but we still have the same arguments. He didn't even come home on our wedding anniversary when I asked him to. He had a rain day and didn't have to work that day. 
The last month I have really been struggling. I bring up all these things I'm unhappy with and I feel like nothing ever gets taken as seriously as it should be. 
I'm ready to walk away. I'm ready to start over. 
I just want opinions from women who have gone through similar situations. How long do you wait for someone to step up or do you walk away? 
Also, if I choose to give up on this.. how the hell do I bring it up to him??

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Maybe try counseling first...?

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I think popular opinion would be to leave, but I feel like there's more you could do. It just requires an openness from you that I'm not sure is there. Relationships can be rebuilt but it takes effort and desire to do so.

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This may sound harsh... but it sounds like he has done a lot of stepping up as far as taking care of the family he created.  It sounds like you have gotten a lot of what you want.  It sounds like he is tired, I mean really tired, like in his soul. I bet he doesn’t like yelling at the kid and regrets it too.  I think that he feels like your father is usurping his fatherly role that it sounds like he barely has the time to have.  He likely frustrated with it.  Right or wrong I loud eyes men seem to look at sex as a reward, and now you’ve taken that away too.  I think that you need to give him some reassurance, build him up a bit and ask him how he is feeling, and it may take several times to get him to actually open up.  I think you’d see a different side of your man if you give him some encouragement and some affection.  
All of this comes from my heart, I’m not judging you.  I haven’t been in the exact same position, but I’ve been in similar and I’ve seen similar dynamics with mine.  We are better than ever after good but hard conversations and work on both sides to see the others need and to be selfless enough to give them what they need even if it’s not what we want at the time.  Try reading Love & Respect and The Love Dare.  I think it might give you new insight.  
I’m sorry you’re hurting and I hope you all navigate this, it doesn’t sound like anything is terribly wrong, just needs a little TLC.

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I agree that life is too short to be unhappy. I’m in a similar situation just minus the kids, minus the marriage, and minus the house together. I’ve been with my boyfriend for about a year now and I honestly got flabbergasted when I read the description of how you feel about your husbands behavior because you described my boyfriend. First of all, when I was pregnant I ended up leaving my boyfriend because being pregnant and arguing over things that he sees me to be overreacting over was too much. Unfortunately, I lost my son in utero and to this day I blame him! I would go back with him and then he would just get comfortable again after buttering me up! Family comes first and my needs do to! Plus I was pregnant. Long story short...We ended up getting back together and about 4 days ago I decided to end it with him because it’s just too much. Life is too short. 
See in your predicament, you have kids, you’re married, and you guys have a house together. Your happiness matters though, so don’t ever forget that. Don’t stay just because you feel like life is established! Think about the fact that you feel you forced it to be that way! You know? It is so much more to life! If you don’t plan on leaving, try couples counseling though. Or try talking. Communication is key.

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It sounds like you already have made up your mind so just ask him for a divorce and move on with your life

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Be honest, be real. Don’t hold anything inside, he might feel the same way too...goodluck.

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This all seems fixable. He can't help his jealousy. He can take some parenting and discipline classes with you. He doesn't have to go to every event you go to. Go to the wedding without him. Y'all can go to a sex store to amp up your love life. I would try to fix it before walking away. Every marriage has its annoyances. But marriage is about making it work (unless infidelity or abuse come to play).

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If you’ve made up your mind to leave and you believe in your heart that’s the right thing to do then don’t question it. But also you built a family a life and a home with this man at one point you must have loved each other unconditionally. I would give things one last try I would tell him exactly how I was feeling and that either something needs to change that we need to work on us or we need to go our separate ways. I really hope for the best for your family best of luck!

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Life is to short to be unhappy ....

Marriage. Step up or give up?

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