Sorry in advance! Needed to vent!

Having a stepdaughter is one of my favorite things about being with my husband. She stresses me out and drives me nuts but I get to watch this beautiful little girl grow into something great. My issue is with the fact that I am so late in this pregnancy and we have a pending custody case open. Which changed everything for her and us. The last court date we planned to be there on time and to tell the judge all of our concerns because from our knowledge it was to be the last court date. Expected everything to go in our favor. Well that was an obvious joke because when we got there everyone else, even our attorney was already there. No one told us time had changed. We didn't even get a call from our attorney and we have to drive 2 1/2 hrs out there. Well then come to find out the entire time we were being told that his ex hadn't been showing up to visitations and now his mother, who supervises the visitations, is telling everyone lies and that she's been there and everything is going great. Well after that court date we had her for the next 2 weekends. Which was awesome; we needed that time with her after that court date. (Even our attorney told us if she received her license she could fight and win for full custody) which is bs because she was a no show for over a year. Didn't care about her daughter at all. Well then the next visitation comes along and we drive her out there. Don't hear from anyone all weekend. But come Sunday night we pick her up, and are told that no one had heard from his ex. No one had even seen her. Well now we have to drive her out there again tonight. I already won't let my son be near my husbands mother or his grandparents due to the way they treat my family and my husband. Which means I don't want my little girl spending an entire weekend with them. Plus, if his ex isn't even going to show up why would I want to risk taking myself out there and being hours from my hospital and on top of that traffic is awful on the way out of town and on the way in. Just sounds ridiculous to me.

*By the way when I heard she was doing better, finally got her ged or diploma whatever she did, and wasn't living with drug users I was all for coparenting with her. I have no issue with her especially when she's better herself for her daughter. I even told my husband she could stay and help with our daughter when we are in the hospital as long as his older sister was there, and that I didn't have an issue with her being at the hospital to support her daughter in getting a new sibling. So please no judgement on my rant; I do believe her mother needs to be in her life due to us not being able to answer certain questions as she grows older. But not if she's not willing to be there 24/7 through the good and bad like a mother should.*

Sorry again for the rant! I'm just stressing over all of this!