Holidays

So both my husbands parents and my parents want to be part of the kids holidays but one or the other always find something to complain about the other grandparents doing something they don’t like and one always ends up pissed off at me for stupid shit I’m over it I’m about ready to just do holidays with out our parents until they can get along I’m done with holidays any one else going through this or I’m guess I’m just looking for suggestions on what other family’s do that have both families that want to be part of their grandkids lives