Feminists: why you so mad?!

I just don’t understand why so many feminists are so dead set on having their own career and making money. Feminists want it so that the traditional family setup will be no more.... but WHY?! 
Why are feminists so against the traditional gender roles? Since I was a kid I’ve always dreamt about being a stay-at-home wife who’s husband comes home from work everyday. I mean, do y’all really want to deal with the burden of “making it”? 
I just don’t get it. I sure hope I can be a stay-at-home wife