Girls who quit smoking...help me

I want to quit smoking, I'm tired of feeling bla and not breathing as well, spending my money, having to bundle up when it's 20° outside and freezing my ass off to have one, and worrying about getting cancer from it. I don't want to use a patch or whatever but I can't just cut cold turkey...I really like smoking, the smell, inhaling it, the look (odd I know) but there's just something so nice about it when I'm smoking but afterwards it's like I almost have to catch my breathe. And I always think okay I'm done I don't want anymore and then later I'm doing it again. I don't want to have a patch because I feel like I'll just go back since I enjoy smoking. What should I do? Because I want to be done, and go hang out with my friends with out going out to smoke, or be at work helping my residents and just think "when I'm done I'm gunna go smoke", and then have them smell it on me, and to stop hearing my boyfriend and everyone else bitch at me about it...I want too but I just really enjoy smoking. How can I quit??