how to say no to say

its like everytime im in a relationship im always giving it up n i had slept with 9 people n some of em where friends for benefits and i have a friend for benefits right now he is my 9th one but i really dont wanna keep having sex because im very young and i dont want my virgina to spread i tried not to do it no more its like i want some one to love me but me and my friends for benefits we bery close n i be in and out my feelings i juss want a relationship but then i dont because they just want me for sex