My clit is too small

So I’m 21 years old, and I’m not gonna lie I’ve had a lot of sex in my 3 years of losing my virginity. I have looked at it, I have tried to feel it, even my boyfriend says it’s really small...

I haven’t been able to O from it, masturbating or with someone’s help.

Am I just missing it? Am I stupid? Literally any advice is helpful. Because apparently I just am struggling.