ADVICE PLEASE! TMI

This is a little tmi but I really need some advice so here goes.... me and my husband 69 before we have sex every time. We are ttc and we learned that saliva can negatively impact sperm and he already has a low sperm count. So we decided to try preseed and not have any oral sex before BD.. I always get very wet. We have never used lube before. Well tonight we tried it for the first time and it was miserable. It dried my vagina out in one minute... my husband kept getting upset so he didn’t even get to cum. does anyone have any suggestions? I’m so upset... I thought this was going to be it.