How does one “stop trying”?

My hubby and i have been TTC for like 6 months now. We have to actually plan when to have sex (during fertile window) because of our work schedules etc.

So if the anxiety of “trying” is not letting us get pregnant, then how does one “stop trying” without conception on your mind since u planned to BD during ovulation time? I can’t wrap my head around not trying when we rly want a baby/time is running out.

Any tips??