Has anyone else had a situation similar to this before?

So a few days ago, I was hanging out with my boyfriend and he basically warned me that he wouldn’t have a gift for me when we hung out on Christmas eve. He said it was because he wanted to get me an eyeshadow palette but saw that my friends already got that for me, so he was stuck on what to get me after that.

I went on vacation for 2 days so I thought that maybe he would’ve looked around and found something, but when I hung out with him yesterday, he didn’t have a gift for me.

I was pretty hurt about it, just because I spent time and effort trying to pick out his present and it felt like once he realized my friends got me makeup already, he just gave up?

One side of me says that I shouldn’t have been sad about it and I made it a bigger deal than it should’ve been, but another side is saying that he did have time to go find something, anything, so I would have something special from him too for Christmas?

When he saw me holding his gift yesterday he was like ‘I’m sorry, I’m a terrible boyfriend’ so I know he felt bad, but he was acting like he only had 3 days to figure out/find something for me.

I️ wasn’t mad, but I was pretty hurt yesterday to say the least. I also tend to overthink everything (was I just not worth the effort? Am I not good enough?), so I was pretty quiet the whole day with him.

To top it off, he got super frustrated with me bu the end of the day cause I was pretty quiet. I mean I understand why, he told me he was trying to just make me feel okay but nothing was working, so I would feel the same way. But he did know why I felt that way so I thought maybe he would keep trying to make me feel better/make up for it? This was when I started crying for hours lol

When he was mad he was saying stuff like ‘you know any other day I’d get you anything you want’ and ‘wtf do you even want me to do, go to the mall right now and get you something?’ And it’s like no, it’s not even like that. I know he’ll get me a present eventually, but Christmas is just so important to me. It’s the effort and the fact that he was set on not getting me anything when we saw each other rather than something at least small.

He grew up a lot differently, so I don’t know, it could be that?

I️ know I️ sound like a spoiled brat but I️ grew up with gifts on Christmas being really important to show your loved ones you thought of them. I do get that it was still petty of me to feel that way though, but I couldn’t help I️t.

My boyfriend and I pretty much made up but I still think about it..

I know this was a handful so thank you if you’re still reading this! If any of you ladies (or the few men on here) have had something similar happen to you I’d appreciate advice/stories!

Other than that I hope everyone had an amazing Christmas. 🎄