How rude!

My husbands niece is in town visiting this side of her family. She's 12 and her disrespect and lack of manners is pissing me off. I'm not sure if I'm being overly critical but I wouldn't dream of getting away with her the attitude she has. here are a few examples.

She spent one night at my house. Went straight from the front door to the couch and fell asleep. My baby is still awake and I'm making dinner ad my husband (her uncle) just got off work so it's a very active few hours in our house. My baby isn't even upset but shrinking away happily and every time she makes a noise my niece groans and makes a big show of covering her ears. I offered her a nice clean room downstairs with privacy and peace but she was too lazy to move. 🙄#1

🙄#2 she wakes up. Asks for breakfast. I tell her to get up and she can have anything she sees. (I stocked up before she came over ) she asks to "just bring it to her" excuse me miss princess wiggle your own butt to the table. She asks for oatmeal and I made a pot. I ask her to taste it to see if she likes it, she does and scoop her a bowl. I ask if it's too much she says no she's hungry. Miss princess takes two bites tops.

Today I took her shopping and I want a Starbucks so I tell her to get what she wants. She orders a peppermint mocha and a cake pop. Takes one sip, hates it tries to throw it away. Fortunately her dad was there to drink it for her.

At Christmas dinner, doesn't say please of thankyou when offered food just grunts or nods and doesn't help pass food around. When her grandma (my mil) reminds her to say "please pass ____\" she rolls her eyes.

Me, my husband, and my bil (her dad) take her to the mall and her dad gives her 100 to buy anything and my husband and I say if it cost more the time at we'll get it for you. She kept asking when to go home. Didn't want to be there, even though it was her idea to go.

Here's the thing. I get that teens are teens but I don't believe that gives them a pass to be little brats. They aren't entitled to shit. I certainly rly was not that way. I was always helpful and kind and listened to my parents and never talked back because that's how I was taught kids should behave. I had a very Chinese upbringing. Is this the norm for kids in America?

I'm a first year first grade teacher and I hold those kids to a high standard and their still at a wonderful age. But I've never had to deal with preteens espically in family. When I first met my niece she was a sweet 7 year old and loved life. Loved little outings and doing stuff. We don't see her much and her time with us is short so it sucks that it's filled with so much rudeness.

I told my husband that I'll have 0 tolerance for that from our girl. ALWAYS respect your elders and everybody around you.

Add info: the girl lives with her mother and step family (4 other kids) in another state. We don't agree/ or like the standard of care my niece is getting down there. She's becoming more like her mother and that's upsetting.