Feel like I’ve lost my gay card by accidentally getting pregnant

Laura

Hey all so idk how to begin. I guess I’ll start with hope that there’s a common understanding that sexuality can be fluid. I like to joke with friends that I consider myself 87% gay. I haven’t been in a relationship with a male since 2011 because I just am not romantically inclined towards or even ever really sexually attracted to men. When I do have sex with a man it’s either with one that I’ve been sleeping with for 10 years and is someone that I trust completely and feel comfortable with or it’s a one nighter no strings probably a bit too drunk kind of hookup. Either way it will happen maybe once or twice a year at most.

Well I accidentally got pregnant during one of these trysts and I decided to keep the baby. The father is supportive and plans to help coparent.

That means I am single and I keep fantasizing and romanticizing about women like I always do and I want to continue dating women but I feel I’ve lost my gay credibility and am starting to feel even more self conscious now that my bump is bumping bigger and bigger.

Any advice or similar situation stories?

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