Is he right?

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I told my bf that I wanted him to tie me up on the bed, and he told me that it sounds like a "rape" more than a normal couple sexual act, and that he would have to be tough with me, and I was like "wtf?!". I didn't mean that when I told him, I taught of it as a really passional act lmao 🤣 he scared me a lil bit tho

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have we forgotten the meaning of rape?

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I think it's fine... Both people consent so it's not rape. Me and my partner don't tie each other to the bed or anything but hell tie my hands behind my back and push me onto the bed so I'm lying on my stomach... Don't think it's remotely rape-like

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Bondage doesn’t have to be rough nor rape-like. It can be very passionate and intimate.

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If both parties consent, it’s sex. Consent is the key word in this situation.

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I believe there is a passion, beauty, and intimacy found in bondage that few other forms of sex can be equal in. There’s A LOT of trust required in this play. Much of the BDSM community stresses highly safe, consensual, fun play. If the boundaries of one are repeatedly ignored, the offender can often be blacklisted from the BDSM community. Ironically, the one with the most power is the slave/submissive/bottom. They get to store everything when they want and how they want. They are, in reality, in total control. The perception is fair, since the action would be pretty similar in good play or rape, but the philosophy and atmosphere would, ideally, be vastly different.

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I don't think there's really a right or wrong in this kind of thing. It's obviously not rape since you're consenting to it, but if he is not comfortable with it there is nothing wrong with that either. No one should be made to do something they are not comfortable with wether they are male or female.

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being tied to the bed is not rape unless one party doesnt consent to the sex

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It’s more bondagey than rapey

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