HONEST opinions !

ok so i have gained about 45 lbs since ive gotten married and i was on some medication for a while that played a big roll in me gaining weight im no longer taking it and i feel like im to heavy for my height im 5'3 or 5'4 and i feel like im not healthy i cant lose weight ive tried dieting and it never plays through i need help ladies, idk why my mom always tought me to never feel ashamed of my body but i DO!! i see all my old clothes and all these women with the same size i was and i feel so bad about myself i never feel right dressing up and when i do i feel self concious