Hate how my vagina looks

I’m so self conscious about how I look down there. I’ve always been big so I chafe and I’m darker skinned down there. I’m just afraid what a guy will think of my vagina if my skin looks different from the outer part of my skin, I’m very pale too?? I’m so nervous about a guy going down on me, I’ve always liked being in the dark but it can’t always be like that.