Monster in Law

Hello everyone. Since the beginning of my relationship I have had difficulties with my husbands mother.

First I will say that I have tried everything to get this woman to like me. I included her in my wedding dress shopping, I invite her out for lunch, and I would sit down and have long conversations and heart to hearts with her. I thought we were really developing a great relationship.

I was so wrong.

She wants my husband to give her money because he’s making more right now, but because he refuses to give her any, she tells him that he is stupid and called him “mentally retarded.“ multiple times.

She is extremely jealous that my husbands kids have a relationship with me. And she says “Its not my responsibility to call the kids.”

My husband doesn’t even talk to her now.

My dilemma:

I do not UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES want this woman at the hospital when my baby is born. I’m sure through social media she will find out when the baby is born and want to come. But after someone telling me for so many months that they do not like me, calling my husband names and insulting him, I don’t want her there.

I worry that my husband will cave because it is his mother. But I don’t want that stress on myself or on my brand new baby. Is it OK for me to put the foot down and tell my husband that I do not want her at the hospital? Or can I go straight to the source and tell her that I do not want her there?

Please give me your honest opinions.