Irritated... good guy not given a chance... never doing this again

So this is totally petty but I see this happen a lot. I hate when a good guy gets taken advantage of or not given a chance just because a girl is used to dating jerks. 🙄

My girlfriend (we’ll call her Lisa) asked me to set her up with one of my husband’s friend (will call him Jake). I was hesitant cause I adore her but she’s a little high maintenance. So I set the date.

Lisa texted me immediately after the date saying she had a good time.

Hubby and I hear from Jake that the date went great and he really likes her. Awesome!

Hubby and I had to go out of town unexpectedly so I don’t talk to Lisa for over a week. Jake talks to hubby and says he thinks Lisa ghosted him...?

So I check in with Lisa. Lisa says “girl you did not tell me how clingy he was. Like omg he was too much.” 😮

I go back and fourth between hubby and Lisa trying to figure out what happened.

Come to find out all he did was call her the next day saying that he had a good time and would love to go out with her again.

She said she couldn’t make definite plans but would call him back (this was Sunday after the date) by Tuesday she hadn’t called so he sent a text, she again said she’d get back to him. Wednesday night she STILL hadn’t contacted him. So he decided to make a romantic gesture. He had a very small arraignment of assorted gerber daisies delivered at her office on Thursday with a note that said “hope these brighten your day like the thought of you brightens mine”.

She again never called.... he texted and asked if she had received anything at the office. She just never replied....

Lisa’s argument for her behavior is that him calling after the date was too much and seemed clingy. The follow up text just added to the clingy. And the flowers seemed desperate...

I am so mad. First I I feel terrible because Jake genuinely liked her and hadn’t felt like he “clicked” with anyone in a long time. He feels like he messed up what could have been a good thing. I’m also pissed that Lisa is being stupid. She’s used to the guy in her life being flakey and not communicating his feelings. She doesn’t know how to handle an actual thoughtful adult man!!!

I am NEVER setting anyone up on a date again. No more playing match maker EVER.