Struggling to feel close to my babies😔

The title sounds a little harsh, I know-but I’m 21 weeks with a boy & girl. I am truly blessed, I KNOW I am blessed. Everyday I do my best to protect them, feed them right, and stress out about what nursery theme they’ll have, car seats I’ll get, etc. I’ve been so stressed out over things that I know I NEED for them and decorating to make sure they have the perfect nursery, that I’ve forgotten to really take a seat and just “love” them & speak to them. I’m struggling to feel close to my babies, although I am only 19yo, this is entirely new to me obviously & I have people throwing their opinions & hand me downs to me left&right;, but I just need a break to be able to feel close to these little lives I’m carrying inside of me. I’m so afraid that before I know it, 17 weeks is going to pass me by & I don’t want to feel as if I wasted this beautiful pregnancy over material things and other nonsense. Any advice/techniques to feel “closer” w/your children or babies still inside of you is very welcomed.