mother in law

3 weeks ago we found a name for our second baby girl. my husband told his mom and sister her name is Hidayah (Hi-day-ah) and they didn't like it saying that it sounded too similar to our first born. they dogged the name so much we thought about changing it. now today his mom calls and goes do y'all have a name picked out, she needs to have a similar name to our first born name is Hadiya (Ha-diya). after she said that he told her "we told you the baby names are similar weeks ago and you guys said nasty things about it". they called us liers and got mad. it's so hard having a mother in law that only believes what she wants to believe