Know your relationship’s worth!! 💕

So, I went on a trip to the grocery store today with my mom. You know how it goes, you always run into someone that your mom knew from college or work 15 years ago. They haven’t “seen each other in ages.” Your parent introduces you to them. Then they look at you and comment about how much bigger you’ve gotten since the last time they saw you, even though that was probably when you were a toddler, and you’re now an adult. You smile and go along with it because that’s what you’re supposed to do. They talk, your mom usually bragging about all of your recent accomplishments. In my case, it was me being in college and working towards a nursing degree. My mother then mentioned how my boyfriend is moving to Wisconsin for a job and how I plan on moving there as well as soon as I’m done with school. Her “friend’s” response:

“Don’t worry, they will be broken up by then.”

I am almost 19 years old. I have been with my boyfriend since I was 16. We have known each other since kindergarten, always been friends. He was the reason I recovered from a year long abusive relationship at the age of 15. We were each other’s rocks through our last year of high school. We started school together, we ended it together. We helped each other through every rough spot in between.

Halfway through my first year of college he got an offer for a job in another state.

Hearing that he would be 6 hours away as I went through rigorous nursing classes absolutely broke me. But we chose to fight. We chose to work through it. Because we wanted to be in each other’s lives.

After a year and a half he got me a ring.

We financially support horses together.

We make solid plans for the future.

We discuss how and when we could make the first step of moving.

I was his first real relationship and he was my first good one.

And we couldn’t be happier.

“But we will probably be broken up by then”.

I am not ranting about this to brag about my relationship. I am not trying to be naive and talk about how perfect things will work out, because lord only knows what can happen. The future is tricky. But to have an adult, who knows nothing about me other than my age, my first name, and my school status, tell me “you won’t last” left me speechless.

Age does not define maturity. Age does not determine love. Age does not determine how well a relationship will work. A ring does not guarantee a future. These things I am aware of. However, it is frustrating that there is a such a stigma surrounding young people and their relationships.

Hearing her say this, my mom jumped to my defense and explained how we were different. How we were good together. But she shouldn’t of had to say that. I shouldn’t have to defend my relationship because of my age.

If you are confronted by someone trying to make your relationship irrelevant due to money, school status, age, gender, or whatever it may be, DON’T let it get to you.

YOU are the only person who knows what’s good for you. YOU know if your man/woman treats you right. YOU know if you’re in a mature or immature relationship. YOU know if it’s serious or not. And if YOU choose to spend time with them, that MEANS something.

Rant over. 🤷🏼‍♀️