Tips on visiting grandparents?

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My baby is almost 3 months old and has trouble napping/sleeping when we’re not at home. Hubby thinks it’s important for us to live our lives and have dinner with our families. I agree and disagree. Agree that we can’t stop everything for her but also I much rather we not mess with her bedtime routine. She usually ends up overstimulated and can’t be settled until we strap her in the car seat and on our way home. By the time we get home, it’s past 830 and then past way past 9 until I can get her to sleep. Her bedtime is usually around 730.  Am I wrong for wanting to keep her home so she can get to bed at her usual time? Or do I need to work on getting her to sleep in other places? Any tips would be so helpful and appreciated. TIA!

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We work around bedtime. Young children and babies cannot be flexible with sleep times the way older children can (for example my 3 year old and 5 year old can stay up late from time to time and be fine. ...my 18 month old, no). If my family wants to have dinner, we either do it early bird style or at my house so baby can get to bed.  It's not fair for a child that young to have to be flexible with things like eating and sleeping.

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They need to follow your schedule. Put your foot down. Babies sleep is more important.

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we did normal times for awhile, but after a couple months of me being exhausted and baby being messed up, I told everyone that if they wanted to do dinner, it was going to be at 5 so we could leave at a decent time. staying out til 9-11 was just not working for Me, we still leave at 730-8 (she's 1 now), if not earlier. We get whined at every time we leave before 10 but they don't have to drive home with a screaming baby and deal with trying to get them calmed down for however long 🙄.

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We live around our daughter sleep schedule. I’m sorry, but she is a child that NEEDS sleep and consistency or we pay for days. We don’t do anything that would prevent her from going to bed 30mins late max. So we turn down a lot of invites, or just 1 of us goes. If we do a “date night” we go when she’s asleep for her nap or after she’s in bed for the evening (and pray she doesn’t wake up). I think it’s a sacrifice of having a kiddo... I know others will disagree but it works for our family. My husbands family lives in town and they still to this day do not want to respect our wishes and make comments how we don’t do things during her nap or bedtime. Yep, got that right we don’t! As for sleeping at others houses... my family lives in another state. We follow our routine to OUR time schedule regardless of time change. My parents are supportive of it.

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I guess I differ on this lol...I don't put my baby on a schedule. He stays up later because we stay up later. 9 sometimes 10. And he sleeps until 7:30 8 most days. I guess it depends on your kid.

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I’m so glad you all agree. I thought I was an uptight FTM! Now to get hubby to see things my way.

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Following, I’m in the same boat. LO gets extremely upset if she’s not put to bed by 730!

Tips on visiting grandparents?

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