Sex talk

Anyone know how to spice it up in the bedroom me and my boyfriend have been together 3 years and have a little boy about to be 3 months and I feel as our sex life is going down hill sometimes it will be amazing and other times I’m like finish and get off I just seem to not get finished or he is always asking are you done yet and ruins the mood so I say yes so he can finish even though I’m not we will use toys but I feel like that’s the only way I really finish and I don’t like that I want him to get me off without using anything it will be good when we don’t have it in awhile but other then that I think or sex life is suffering I plan on valentines to wear a little something sexy and try to help if anyone can help please and he also won’t go down on me for some reason but will want me to blow him like it isn’t fair I feel like if he would do that it would help out a lot but please help ladies I really want to have an amazing valentines this year since last year sucked and want our fun sex life back we’re it was crazy and didn’t stop at 5 minutes in where it lasted an hour or even 20 minutes it feels like a job and boring like wanting it to be done with and I don’t want to feel like that