Random pregnacy insights wanted

So, we have agreed to wait until about twenty weeks or so to announce our pregnancy. My random questions that I'd love some opinions on is, this is baby #3. Our last. I never had a gender reveal, or a baby shower or ANYTHING like that, with my two girls. Is it wrong if me to want those things with this child? I am also conflicted about knowing the gender before birth, as I don't know if I do, or if I want to be pleasantly surprised when he or she is born? I also don't know what type of birth I wish to do. I've wanted to do a homebirth, but my husband isn't the calmest person in those situations😂 I know I do not want a c section and I do not want any pain relief at all. Thoughts? Opinions? Ideas? I really want to go all out, since this is our last child😭