When you become a parent

Did you realize how terrible yours are? Thinking of things that your parents did/still do and think “holy crap I’d never do that”. And I don’t mean deciding whether or not your kid is gonna drink soda or juice before bed kind of stuff. Like toxic, emotional drama. I don’t say anything because I don’t want to be on my “high horse”, I already get crap for being financially stable, as if that’s a bad thing. As if that’s something to be sorry for. Some people are just so negative and will always be. I didn’t have grandparents growing up and I was happy to know my kid would have both sets but knowing how draining they can be makes me wonder if it’s worth having them around