White picket fence nightmare😓

You guys....ive been living with my boyfriend for almost 2 years, i keep the house clean and organized and smellygood (because his “clean” is not my “clean” and i end up doing it again anyways) i do all the “wifey” bullshit. i cook every night, do the dishes (no dishwasher mind you), sweep, mop, vacuum, dust, laundry, change the sheets once a week, blah blah blah, EVERYTHING!!

I’ve always heard, when a man is looking for someone to spend their life with they compare the relationship to their parents, i get it, the ideal white picket fence, wife cleaning house and cooking dinner, husband watching tv being fucking catered too, yes hun, type horseshit...

okay maybe if you’re paying my bills but we split everything 50/50 and i do hard labor for work, asphalt grading and paving, i run heavy equipment and shovel tons of asphalt daily...he is a bouncer/ bar back...but hes always wayy too tired and exhausted to help, (meh i just woke up, meh im leaving for work in 2 hours, meh im chilling leave me alone)

Point & case... he tells me im bitching all the time, that i stress him out and make him hate being home, when all im doing is trying to explain that i just want some help. Wtf do i do? Anything i say he turns into an argument and calls it bitching, its not fair! What the fuck do i do?