Need a rant š over bearing mil alert
Need to rant ! Iām gonna put this in basic and short as I just typed this and it deleted š. Iāve always got on with my mil but since ds was born I canāt stand her sheās too over bearing and always thinks she right ! Itās not how the world works give and take kinda thing. We see her few times a year for special occasions as oh and her donāt get on due to her being a shitty mother to say the least in the past. Heās always got on with my family and Iād live with us for a year and half when his mother refused to have him live with her at age 20! Iām pretty sure sheās one of these that loves babyās and toddlers hates anything over ! We were fine got on really well actually until ds! She hated the fact I only wanted my oh and my mother in for his delivery why would I want her there when I see her 4 times a year š¤·š»āāļø she always left my oh out of everything to the point we didnāt even get invited to his nieces birthday parties ! She was not interested in him in the slightest even while I was pregnant actually up until I was 38 weeks pregnant š¤ then she wanted to be round every day itās too much when you donāt know someone that well but we just went with it thought she was just excited well it hasnāt stopped and heās now 6 months old and sheās grinding me to the point I canāt shut my mouth any longer ! I canāt even be in the same room atm sheās so rude and arrogant! She thinks as she related itās her right to do what she wants with my son ! Iām sure itās because she had such a shitty relationship with her son she no thinks sheās gonna relive his life through my son! Itās unbelievable sometimes anyway sheās well known to wake the baby constantly, which I hate itās the one thing Iām strict with let him sleep and I never wanted him to be sleeping in peoples arms as my oh works 6/7 days a week so would end up once everyoneās gone home me having to get the baby to sleep on me, such an awful person for wanting my baby to learn to self soothe š¤£ anyway heās a great sleeper at 6 months no rocking to sleep no dummy no sleep crutches no crying at bed time or nap times my craziness worked ! I cannot fault him but itās what heās always known! Anyway any chance she can speak to loudly or he stirs she starts talking to him I mean half the time his eyes arenāt even open and sheās rubbing his legs or something which annoys me, if heās awake first thing I do is give him to people to hold and play with so she gets to see him ! She tried to wake him Boxing Day for a photo and I just lost my shit and just looked at her stern and said no heās asleep I mean heād been asleep 10 minutes all day and itās lunch time ! Itās always down to me to settle him after she wakes him too as oh works a lot so doesnāt really know how to sheās just so selfish! Anyway big problems been since we got him christened. Back row of church was supposed to be for mil my mum my dad and partners nooooooo her entire family took the back 3 rows including her friends who some id never even met let alone the baby! Annoyed before we even started that my mum and dad had to sit 6 rows back and stand in the aisle of the church just to watch him be christened . 85 guests we had so you can guess everyone wanted to see him and he was shattered hadnāt slept all day but I just kinda thought itās one day when heās tired heāll pass out on me lol š (never usually does as heās never beeno allowed to fall asleep on us). I was making my way round each table slowly so everyone got to say hi to him! after a while my mum noticed all the food was going and I hadnāt eaten and my oh was off getting drunk with his friends typical , any excuse š¤·š»āāļø. So gave baby to my mum and miracles happen he fell asleep within 5 minutes so we popped him in his pram and she went and sat in the garden with him wrapped up so he could get a decent nap in ( usually goes 1.30-2hours ) anyway with my mum being out there half hour mil taps my shoulder and said can she take over rocking him , I did say no straight up my mums happy babyās asleep itās fine enjoy yourself heāll be awake again soon mums happy coz she hasnāt seen dads side of the family in years and not as awkward for her sitting out there anyway! Within 5 minutes of me saying that mil has completely ignored what I said and taken the pram off my mum and my mum said she wouldnāt take no for an answer and she didnāt wanna wake baby, low behold 10 minutes later baby only been asleep 25 minutes heās woken up what a fucking surprise ! I was livid ! She then got the baby out the pram walked straight past me and plonked him on my oh who had been continuously drinking for the last 3 hours I was livid!! Anyway oh bought him straight to me as he wanted to carry on with his friends and she was just staring at me ! Everyone commented on it who I was sat with and I hadnāt mentioned anything to them! Anyway I carry on working round the tables and she comes over and says can I take the baby to our table again so I said ok just to shut her up went back and got him 20 minutes later carry on my journey . Then oh comes past and hear her moaning she wanted some of the christening cake we bought . Baring in mind heās staying at the pub after I take baby home I got to take baby home on my own with all his presents pram and a 3 tide cake ! Weād already said day before we werenāt cutting the cake up at the pub as would make it harder for me to take home , she kept on and on and on and after half hour he asked me if we could cut It I literally lost it just said grow a pair of balls and say no ! 3rd time in one day shed some something š. Half hour later she comes over again says can we have baby again this time Iād had enough and just said Iām working my way just be patient Iāll come back over but thereās people who havenāt seen him yet so instead of just saying ok thatās fine she kept on š again ... so this point people are looking but she has no idea what a pain she is ! Anyway baby got ratty again within 20 minutes and I decided to take him home Iād had enough big time! My mum and aunt helped pack the presents into the car which she could have helped with but instead just sat staring at my mum making her feel uncomfortable, Iām sick of living like it all it does is make me and my oh argue if I stand up for us! I wouldnāt mind but sheās not even nice to him either and he puts up with it but I canāt see her treat him so bad and I certainly wonāt let her treat my son like it when heās older either ! I havenāt heard from her since as oh been working weekends not even a text to say how are you and the baby! Iām on maternity Iāve told her she can come by every Tuesday on her day off and all I got told was āohhhh Tuesdays my day to do what I want ā she wonāt come round if itās just me and baby only if oh is there which is rare and I donāt see why we shouldnāt be able to spend one day of that a week as a 3! She doesnāt even live close enough to just pop by it takes 40 minutes to get to her house coz she decides to move away. itās made me miserable for the last 6 months does anyone have any ideas on how to stop making her get to me as much as she does or how to stop this ! I honestly think sheās the reason I was so depressed after I had ds
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