CAN'T EFFING DEAL!!!

so bf and I keep fighting and eventually we had a nice long beautiful talk which didn't end in a fight.. so my mom asks about it and we speak a bit and she starts pointing fingers saying I'm like this and like that and etc etc etc!! just when I say I need to work on things!!! she instead attacks me and points out my flaws etc. I can't deal because she ND I are always fighting. she never wants to listen to me and how I feel.