New guy, red flags or am I self sabotaging?

I just started seeing this new guy.

He’s very nice. Very emotional and sensitive.

Sexy and we have a lot in common, the way we see the world.

He’s the same age as me, also has two kids close to my kids age.

A few things though... he’s putting off that “two nice” kinda vibe.

After two dates he says that he wants to take care of me, I’m the coolest girl he ever met and so on...

He also told me has a sex bed.

That he built for dominant and submissive sex.

Which is fine and all but I hardly know him.

He says his marriage destroyed him because his wife never

So now he’s taken it upon himself to learn how to please a women.

Which I guess this is all good things?

I don’t know if I’m just scared talking my self out of it?

I don’t know. What do y’all think.

Him being so forward about how much he likes me, freaks me out.

So does him telling me about his sex bed and how he likes sex for hours.

I mean, he says he wants a women with a deep connection and wants to get to the point of trust before we did anything like that.

BUT he also seems incredibly insecure a lot of the time too.

It’s just weird.

He said when he loves, he loves hard and gets hurt a lot.

I don’t know. Why am I feeling like I’m not sure how to feel?

I don’t know what to think.