Hi there,

So I’m seeking some relationship advice. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years now and our relationship is basically functioning on borrowed time. Last night he had a talk with me about why he feels the way he does. He was telling me that I’m slowing him down towards his future goals. Mind you we have a four month old son together and I’m currently about 8 weeks pregnant with another baby that we wanted. I also have a 7 year old from a previous engagement.

We fight a lot over stupid things. And when we do fight it’s like he will intentionally say anything to hurt my feelings. And I end up crying wondering what the hell am I doing?

Last night when we were talking he was telling me he hasn’t cared about anything in a really long time. And I asked him if he cared about us and his response was “not really. I really don’t care about anything anymore.” I was just in awe of his response. He said “really the only thing I care about is my son. He is dependent on me and he can’t take care of himself so I have to provide for him.” So, I asked him do you think it would be best if I left then? And he said “no, we’ve already talked about this before.” Which means I’m basically here to take care of the kids because daycare is expensive. I also asked him if he was even in love with me anymore and he responded “I’m not sure how I feel anymore.”

Here’s the thing, I do love the man with all of my heart. I wouldn’t leave him because we do have our faults but the big picture is our kids and our family. When we don’t fight things are wonderful. But when we do they’re horrible. I try to talk in a civil way with him about our problems but I feel like in a lot of ways it’s not working.

Anyone have any advice? Please?