So in my 30s, I would like to think of myself as more grounded and secure with who I am. I’ve come along way! However an issue arises that existed in my 20s and I don’t know how to work it out.

I am very threatened by my fiancé looking at other women on the internet. And I mean, let’s face it...sex and beautiful women are everywhere. There’s no control and it’s being shoved in all of our faces. As I inevitably get older, those girls on the Internet will always be young and beautiful etc. How do I compete with that?

I know he loves me. He shows me every day. But when his eyes move to internet images or videos, it triggers me. For example, some sort of “Ariel Winter” video came up on his YouTube history yesterday and the first picture was her ass! When I asked he said it was “click bait” and I just dropped it. But inside I’m like “uhhhh what’s wrong with my ass?! Why look at hers when you have mine? Oh it’s not as nice. Wah!” And then I go on a 20 minute mind rant hating Ariel Winter and calling her a slut. I know that’s not the answer.

Maybe a part of me realizes that even though my fiancé is amazing and loving and loyal, he’s still a man. And this is what men do...and that’s it. I just hate that side of men though. It’s hurtful.

On the flip side, maybe if I was more secure with my own sexuality this wouldn’t be an issue, but I seem to be on the more reserved side. I feel like me looking up images of hot men is a sign that I don’t like the way he looks any more.

My thoughts are a little disorganized but if anyone has insight I would love to hear. Thank you!