Who should be angry right now?

Question

My husband doesn’t like when I criticize my body. And I body shame myself when other girls are around me that I know look way better. I was getting anxiety today because a girl I know (who is very nice) has a great body is coming over with her husband (my husbands good friend) and I was explaining my anxiety to him and he was getting upset and said it was stupid. Now we are both angry at each other. Who should really be angry right now?

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I mean, he’s invalidated your feelings, so it’s okay for you to be upset. 
But if you do this all the time, it’s frustrating to him. He probably tries to convince you you’re beautiful all the time and you don’t believe him, so he’s probably tired of trying. So he has a right to be frustrated.

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Nobody should be angry. It’s understandable why he is annoyed though. If he doesn’t see things the same way, and you keep calling yourself ugly, how do you think he’s gonna feel? This is an issue you need to work on like now. It is never healthy and you’re putting yourself down for absolutely no reason. We all look different, and you are special in your own ways, he loves you for a reason. You can’t control how you came out when you were born! What will it take for you to be comfortable in your own skin? You deserve happiness, you know, and you are putting yourself in a bad vibe when you could be doing so many other things that are positive. Take good care of yourself, it’s a long journey. You have so many people who love you. The world is not out to get you because you look different. Nobody is calling you ugly or fat or whatever you believe about yourself. Only you are.

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He should be angry.. he’s your husband, I’m sure he has sex with you & knows what you look like naked & it doesn’t bother him. Men HATE an insecure women, when you point something out to a man so many times, he’ll start noticing and hating it too.. that woman wants nothing to do with your husband, just apologize & tell him you’re sorry you’re insecure.. you love him for loving you including all of your flaws.. if your this insecure try working on yourself, eating cleaner or working out more.. weight lifting will do wonders for ANYONE!

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Anxiety is a very real thing, however I’m sure he’s frustrated because he’s probably had to assure you multiple times that you’re his one and only and if you keep getting nervous if a girl comes near him then he’s going to think you don’t trust him. That said if your anxiety isn’t just trust issues and is an actual problem a therapist can diagnose, then he might be more understanding of your self consciousness. I don’t think either of you should be angry, but maybe sit down and talk with him about it! Hope this helps ❤️💗

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No one. You have no right to be angry. You have an anxiety issue; not an anger issue. He doesn’t really have a right to be angry either but I can imagine he’s super annoyed. I gather he might hear this kind of thing from you regularly and it might get tiring. How many times can he reassure you that you look great, that he has no interest in another girl, etc? So unless you’re taking active steps to address the root of your problem (therapy?), then I have to say (although it might not be popular opinion) that I can see how it could get frustrating and perhaps hard to deal with for him. 
Just try to remember that no matter What you look like: confidence is sexy! 
And I’d bet money you’re being too hard on yourself.

Who should be angry right now?

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